This is something i wrote for my Decision for Life class. It was an essay that was supposed to describe the different types/forms of love. So have at it.
Love - With a Capital “L”
Love:
–noun
1. A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person
2. Sexual passion or desire
Is that really true? Can one even begin to put a label or definition on such a strong and meaningful word? It just doesn’t seem quite possible. Love takes so many different forms, so many shapes. To some, it may mean physical attraction or emotional attraction or possibly even something that someone does every day, such as a fluff of the hair or smile. It’s the little things that draw people to one another. The imperfect things. It’s physically impossible to be perfect, which makes me a firm believer that it is all the little things that make you imperfect that makes someone begin to fall in Love with you. It’s such a strong feeling, and it cannot be described, but there are many different aspects that make it up, the first of which is Physical Love.
Physical Love is the first thing that sets any feelings off, period. It’s the look of that person, the way they smile. Their eyes. The outside of the entire package. What is on the outside may not mean everything, or even anything in the end, but it has to mean something at some point, because it is the single thing that draws you in. The way they look at you, the way they touch you when they’re happy, and the way they tremble when they’re sad. It’s the way they look you in the eye and smile sometimes, for no seemingly real reason. The way they can make you feel when you touch their lips, or they touch yours. Physical connections are so very important. This person needs to be able to make you feel good when you’re alone, and even when you’re not. But loving someone is much deeper then skin, but it all starts somewhere, and it has to start by being noticed. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but beauty cannot be everything though, there has to be more. There has to be a deeper connection tied down to emotions.
Emotional Love is that butterfly-like feeling you get when you kiss them, or hold their hand. It’s that sensation of being rushed into a wave when they say “I Love You,” for the first time. Emotional Love is being able to say something that makes them cry in happiness and then smiling because you can physically see how much it mean to them. Emotional Love is being able to say “I Love You for who you are,” and being able to pick your partner up even when they are at the lowest depths of their life, because you Love them, and you would do anything to make sure they are happy and well. Emotions involve so many different factors. It means not cheating on them, staying faithful, and never lying just to benefit yourself. Truth itself is one of the biggest factors in a relationship because it builds the biggest factor, trust. Without trust, Love cannot form, it cannot stay, and it can never be. Being emotionally settled means you’re comfortable with just being yourself and your physical being, knowing you aren’t looking, what you consider to be, your best. Your emotions are, in my opinion, the biggest factor in a relationship, and they are something that cannot be damaged, or the relationship will be hurt as a result. It’s the fact of knowing that you’re loved, that you’re cared about, and that always have someone to run to. Some people don’t see a relationship as an emotional bond, but a physical bond. Some people just need that emotion bond to be happy, and like wise for a physical bond. It all depends on the person, but sometime it needs to be more then that.
Social Love is knowing that you can be with the love of your life, and their friends and still be comfortable and happy. Knowing that someone’s friends accept you can really make or break your relationship, because if you can’t get the friends approval, it’s bound to be a tough road for the both of you. Your love would have to go through a lot of torment from constantly hearing friends say how they don’t approve, and things of that matter. Of course, if your love is strong, it can always last through anything and everything that life throws at you. But for a lot of couples, having a friend’s approval, at the very least, a best friend’s approval is a key factor in a relationship. It’s just like having a parent’s approval. If your parents don’t approve, the road will be a very tough road ahead, but again, it can be overcome like anything else in a relationship, as long as your love is true and strong, it will always endure.
Recreational / Aesthetic Love occurs when two people are just together, with family, friends, or no one at all, and are just enjoying the time together doing things that make them who they are. Whether it’s playing games, running around the mall, or just watching movies, this love occurs when two people are simply being their selves. Having fun together and not having to be alone all the time is something that will bring two people together. Doing aesthetic activities bring people closer, and open them up, possibly, to a world they may have never known. Sometimes, finding new things out like this may frighten couples, but it can also bring couples together in the end. You do not, though, have to have the same interests. With all things considered, if the only thing a couple can agree on is a decent singer/song writer, things are going pretty good.
Intellectual / Religious Love is being able to talk to your partner and not be afraid of sounding dumb, or even too smart. The key to a relationship is communication, and if you cannot have a decent conversation that intrigues you, how can you ever hope to have a relationship that can fix things when times and troubles come arise? Along with having these conversations, religious values often times come into play. It may not be important to all, but some people find it to be a very deep and difficult subject that they find to be sensitive to them. If you cannot agree with someone like that, it may not work. But, once again, it can always work if you want it to. You both do not have to have the same religion, or even go to the same church. Wanting a relationship and someone to love will always come over small faults such as this.
Love, with a capital “L.” I think love is too strong of a word to not pay attention to like that. In our language, we capitalize all the words we find to be important; names, places, holidays. Isn’t love important? I think it is far to over looked as something taken for granted, and needs to be taken a little more seriously in that respect. Whether we are talking about love in writing or not, our body will always be the forefront for love, and it will endure all the battles love can throw at it, almost as if our body knows that in the end, love will be the best thing to step into our lives, and the only thing to never leave.
Love Bears All Things, Believes All Things, Hopes All Things, Endures All Things.
Love Never Ends.
1 Corinthians 13: 7-8
Humbly Yours,
BJ Nelson
